The beginning of a new school year brings excitement, new opportunities, and fresh starts. It also brings uncertainty. Whether your child is starting kindergarten, moving to a new school, entering middle or high school, or simply returning after summer break, feeling nervous is completely normal. Parents may experience some of those same emotions, too.

The good news? A little preparation, open communication, and a few healthy routines can go a long way in helping children feel confident and ready for the first day of school.

Recognize the Signs

Children don’t always tell us when they’re anxious. Instead, those feelings often show up in other ways.

Watch for signs such as trouble sleeping, stomachaches, headaches, irritability, changes in appetite, difficulty concentrating, increased clinginess, or reluctance to go to school. These behaviors don’t necessarily mean something is wrong, they’re often a child’s way of expressing uncertainty about a new situation.

When your child shares concerns, listen without immediately trying to solve the problem. Simply acknowledging their feelings lets them know they are heard and supported.

Keep the Conversation Going

One of the most effective ways to ease anxiety is to talk about it.

Ask open-ended questions like:

• What are you most excited about this school year?
• Is there anything you’re worried about?
• What would help you feel more prepared?

Rather than saying, “Don’t worry,” try saying, “It’s okay to feel nervous. Lots of students feel that way when school starts.” Validating a child’s feelings helps build trust and confidence.

Healthy Routines Help Children Feel Secure

Children thrive on routines. As school approaches, begin shifting bedtimes, wake-up times, and meal schedules to match the school-day routine. Predictability helps reduce stress because children know what to expect.

Healthy daily habits also support emotional well-being. Encourage your child to:

• Eat nutritious meals and snacks.
• Drink plenty of water throughout the day.
• Be physically active for at least 60 minutes each day.
• Get enough sleep for their age.
• Limit screen time before bedtime.

These simple habits help children feel their best both physically and emotionally.

Build Confidence Before the First Day

Children often feel less anxious when they know what to expect.

Help your child prepare by involving them in back-to-school activities. Let them pick out school supplies, organize their backpack, help pack lunches, or choose outfits for the first week.

If possible, visit the school beforehand, practice the route to school or the bus stop, and attend orientation events. Familiar experiences help reduce fear of the unknown.

Most importantly, praise effort—not perfection. Remind your child that everyone makes mistakes and that learning is all about trying, growing, and improving.

Talk About Friendships—and Bullying

Many children worry about making friends or fitting in.

Encourage your child to be kind, include others, and look for classmates who share similar interests. Strong friendships can make a big difference in helping children feel connected at school.

It’s also important to have age-appropriate conversations about bullying. Explain that bullying is repeated aggressive behavior that can be physical, verbal, social, or online through cyberbullying.

Let your child know they should:

• Tell a trusted adult immediately if they are being bullied or witness bullying.
• Stay with friends or trusted peers whenever possible.
• Avoid responding with aggression or retaliation.
• Save screenshots or messages if cyberbullying occurs.
• Remember that bullying is never their fault.

If bullying does occur, work closely with your child’s teacher, school counselor, or school administrator to develop a plan. Early communication between home and school is one of the best ways to resolve concerns.

Know When to Ask for Help

While some first-day jitters are expected, persistent anxiety that interferes with school attendance, friendships, or daily activities may require additional support.

If your child’s worries continue for several weeks or begin affecting daily life, talk with your child’s pediatrician, school counselor, or a licensed mental health professional. Seeking help early can provide children with effective tools for managing anxiety before it becomes more overwhelming.

Helpful Resources for Families

If you’re looking for additional information, these organizations provide reliable, research-based guidance:

• HealthyChildren.org (American Academy of Pediatrics)
• Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) – Children’s Mental Health
• StopBullying.gov
• National Association of School Psychologists (NASP)

Your local UF/IFAS Extension Office is also a valuable resource for research-based programs that support healthy families, child development, nutrition, stress management, and overall well-being.

A Positive Start Makes a Difference

Every child experiences the start of a new school year differently. By listening with empathy, establishing healthy routines, encouraging open conversations, and partnering with your child’s school, you can help build the confidence and resilience they need to thrive.

Remember, children don’t need parents who have all the answers. They need caring adults who will listen, encourage them, and remind them they are never alone. With support from family, school, and the community, every child can begin the school year feeling safe, supported, and ready to learn.

About the Author

Lori Wiggins is the County Extension Director and Family and Consumer Sciences Agent IV with UF/IFAS Extension Taylor County. UF/IFAS Extension provides research-based education to help individuals and families improve their health, well-being, and quality of life. Contact the Taylor County Extension Office to learn more about upcoming educational programs and resources for families.

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