Modern Dads at the Crossroads
By Carol Church, Writer, Family Album
Reviewed by Stephanie Toelle, Family and Consumer Sciences Extension Agent IV at UF-IFAS Duval County and Suzanna Smith, PhD, Department of Family, Youth, and Community Sciences, University of Florida
This post is in honor of Father’s Day.
As a working mom of two school-aged children, I’m very aware of what seems to be constant media coverage of the state of modern motherhood, and the emotional choices moms face about work and parenting. Yet while their situation is somewhat different than that of moms, I think there’s little doubt that dads also encounter stress and difficult decisions as they manage the competing demands of family and work.
Still, it often seems like we don’t hear much about modern fatherhood….except maybe right about now, as Father’s Day rolls around! Fortunately, plenty of researchers focus on fathers’ roles all year round. A 2013 report from the Pew Research Center offers some insight into the lives of today’s dads.
Less Time on Housework than Mom–But More at the Office
Most of us probably won’t be surprised to learn that fathers today do far more housework and childcare than past generations of men. However, on average, mothers still spend quite a bit more time with children and on home tasks, while as in the past, fathers tend to work somewhat longer hours than their employed spouses and partners.
Feeling the Time Crunch
Perhaps for this reason, today’s dads are far more likely than moms to feel that they aren’t spending enough time with their children. In fact, 46% of dads feel this way—almost half!–compared to just 23% of mothers. Fathers are also less likely than mothers to say they are doing an “excellent” or “very good” job of parenting. That feeling of lack of time might play a role here: dads were especially likely to rate themselves poorly as parents when they felt they weren’t getting enough time with their children.
Juggling, Just Like Moms
Some might be a little surprised to learn that, much like working mothers, working fathers want flexible work schedules. About half say this is “extremely important” to them. And while working dads are somewhat less likely than working moms to say they “always feel rushed,” they were just about as likely to say they find it “very difficult” to balance work and family.
As families continue to evolve, it seems that both men and women are trying hard to cope with the competing demands of family and paid work. This Father’s Day, take a moment to appreciate the dads in your life. As moms know, it can be hard to juggle it all at times—but it’s worth it.
Parker, K., & Wang, W. (2013). Modern parenthood: Roles of moms and dads converge as they balance work and family. Retrieved from http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2013/03/14/modern-parenthood-roles-of-moms-and-dads-converge-as-they-balance-work-and-family/
(Originally published in a slightly different form as: Church, C. (2013). Modern fatherhood. [Radio broadcast episode]. Family Album Radio. Gainesville, FL: University of Florida.)